Tuesday, April 30, 2013


Once Upon A Time...

There's a lot of history in my bank.

When you've been there and done that enough times, the world gains a different complexion. Take Children's Week, for instance, which this year I don't need to touch. It is the first time since the Festival was introduced that I find myself not needing to quest (I missed it once along the way before someone does the maths and points accusingly.) I could, because the pets sell pretty well, but as at least 101 other people on my server will be thinking the exact same thing... Relaxing about stuff is becoming something that I don't have to work at doing. That, I suspect, is tied up with my life outside the game far more than I'd normally care to admit.

Learning not to stress at the virtual however is a skill I suspect many people could still do with grasping.

Stress-free pursuits ftw...

Of course, stress is one of those things it's all very well saying you need to deal with, but when you have it any rationale gets eroded pretty fast. Take my epic weapon as a good example: I did my best not to let it bother me but it's influence leaked all over my gametime. Only when you can deal with the problem, when you can wrest back some of the control into your own hands... and that's often not practical in situations where you have to play with other people. This is when I return to solo play, when grinding and AH speculation become the order of the day. I'm sure you have other ways to deal, which is all well and good until you're not actually playing the game any more and avoiding the issues that vex you.

Then there's the point to make that gaming is supposed to relieve stress, not further promote it.

Read the poster. READ THE POSTER.

Relaxing in this game is not as simple as in others, however. The greatest strength the franchise possesses, its community spirit, is often as big a problem for those who find themselves unhappy with the particular situation they find themselves in. Guild woes, friendships turned sour, mates off playing other games... we've all got our particular stories to tell. For some, the only way to deal with the issue is to go afk. For those of us who remain, that in itself can further contribute to the problem, if we let it. That's the key to all of this, in beating the problem. The understanding that, like it or not, the world does not rotate around Azeroth: try as you might, this shouldn't the most important thing you do all day.

That statement in itself is a buzzing hornets nest that I'm not going to poke any further, I'm simply going to leave it hanging where I found it. Needless to say, a healthy life involves time outside of Azeroth. That's why there's a tooltip on startup for it :P What do you do therefore if you're having trouble relaxing in the place you should be enjoying yourself? There is, of course, no definitive answer because everyone is different and, as a result, you'll need to look for your own answers. I'd say, as a first point, if you're getting unduly obsessed about a particular thing you can't do or that seems to consistently go wrong, it may well be time to take a step back.

If, like me, you've been at this for a while, there is no shame in occasionally cheating on the game with something else. Remember that to relax you need to work out why you're not, as well as how to deal with the problem. Most importantly of all, no-one will think badly of you if you ask for help, which is a very good way of reaching out to new people in the Community and forging different friendships. The first step is always the hardest, but once you've made it, the journey does get easier.

There's a lot of us on these journeys too. Remember to wave as you see us.

1 comment:

Tome of the Ancient said...

/wave! I always read your posts first thing in the morning with coffee on my iPad. Well, the coffee is not ON my iPad but you know what I mean.

Thought I should drop by again and say hi and let the faffage continue!